tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7515375289016679235.post6454149842513784119..comments2021-03-06T15:37:51.296-07:00Comments on Finding Cynthia: "The Best Laid Plans of Mice and Men"Cynthia Janehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16222413324022459669noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7515375289016679235.post-89598692161946229412011-10-11T00:22:46.127-06:002011-10-11T00:22:46.127-06:00@Kelly, Suzi, Debra, I appreciate everything all ...@Kelly, Suzi, Debra, I appreciate everything all of you have said. This has turned into the biggest event ever of our entire marriage, with the exception of the births of our children. Nothing tops that, but this is a very close second. <br /><br />Every day something new comes up, and we seem to be able to handle it. We know the Lord Jesus is intimately involved, otherwise we would be in a world of trouble right now, instead, we are in each other's arms. The Lord is so Gracious.<br /><br />Hugs to you all,<br /><br />Cynthia XXCynthia Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16222413324022459669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7515375289016679235.post-70874350568728185242011-10-10T13:36:35.057-06:002011-10-10T13:36:35.057-06:00Hey girl. I'm glad you were able to tell your ...Hey girl. I'm glad you were able to tell your wife. That's a huge step. I'm glad you two are working through things too. Just be careful. <br /><br />Also, do not think that 'nobody wants the negativity'. Think of this blog as an avenue for you to share your thoughts and feelings, positive or negative. It's true, we know what it's like....but it helps to get it out and many of us can relate. *hugs*Debrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06752910753527115712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7515375289016679235.post-85374182850247073252011-10-05T17:46:31.460-06:002011-10-05T17:46:31.460-06:00Well, well, well...I must say I'm so happy you...Well, well, well...I must say I'm so happy you have finally come clean hon...lol. I totally understand your feelings, AND your wife's. My story is very similar to yours. I just want to give you a couple of pointers to help along the way.<br /><br />Your wife will have good days and bad days when it comes to dealing with Cynthia. I'm encouraged to see her helping you buy a few items. Just don't get discouraged when you see her struggling with your new presentation. There will be days when she will NEED to see her "Hubby." The closeness you both share with Christ can keep you together when nothing else can.<br /><br />Trust is paramount. My wife wrote me a letter telling me that she is so happy I'm not hiding anymore. I try to be as open and honest as I can...especially when I tell her how much I love her. As you discuss matters with your wife, be honest about your future plans as a woman. Do you want to transition or maybe start taking hormones? I have told my wife "no" because I feel it might become a deal breaker for us. Honest, heartfelt discussion and prayer are your first line of defense against animosity, distrust, jealousy (yes, jealousy), and fear of separating.<br /><br />I have found, over time, that as long as I remain honest...as long as I continue to reassure my wife that my love for her is unconditional and permanent, she is very, VERY tolerant of how I dress around the house.<br /><br />One other pointer...go slowly. Over time she will become accustomed to seeing you dressed or partially dressed. My wife nearly had a cow when I pierced my ears and kept them pierced. Now she will help me buy earrings that match outfits. It will be up to you to sense her level of acceptance at any particular time. For a while, her feelings and emotions about Cynthia will rise and fall. Over time she won't think twice about seeing you sitting around the house in a nightgown. <br /><br />Well, I have a ton of other pointers, but I don't want to take all of the suspense out of it...lol. I know your emotions are raging right now, but joy in the fact that you no longer have to hide who you are. Praise Christ that your feelings of guilt can begin to fade. Cynthia's life is about to get better. I think you're right...Christ created the opportunity for you to open up to your wife when the time was right. Like you said, she has probably been thinking about it for a long time.<br /><br />Good luck sweetie!! Keep me informed.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7515375289016679235.post-14756505445751973882011-10-05T17:40:43.134-06:002011-10-05T17:40:43.134-06:00Hi Cynthia!
I can see why you wanted to tell your...Hi Cynthia!<br /><br />I can see why you wanted to tell your wife via a letter; you write beautifully. And how wonderful that your wife is so accepting! She sounds like a very special person. What an amazing feeling it must be to not only finally have told the truth but to have her help you pick your wardrobe.<br /><br />I don't think you need to ask for forgiveness of anyone - except maybe yourself. (Believe me, I know whereof I speak! ) We can be so, so hard on ourselves. No one deserves to be in the position we find ourselves in, through no fault of our own, so you don't need to feel guilty anymore. <br /><br />Congratulations on your progress; can't wait to hear how things go as you move forward!<br /><br />Hugs,<br />KellyCassidyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10765803435751308973noreply@blogger.com